Is Involvement the Key? A Life Lesson from 4 Year Old Ethan.

On Tuesday, May 11, 2010 in Layton, Utah, four year old Ethan Jonathan David Stacy was killed after being severely tortured and beaten by his step-father and mother, Nathan and Stephanie Sloop.  I have to step back and take a broader look at this picture and wonder if this needless death could have been prevented.

As an entrepreneur I am always eager to share what my latest venture is or to be involved with the next entrepreneurial seminar but how enthusiastic am I in getting involved in my own community, let alone with those who live right next door to me.  I wonder if in the 5 days of torture ensuing in the death of little Ethan if signs or clues were not given to where an observant neighbor might have been able to interject and save Ethan’s life.

I am not talking about being nosy, gossipy or meddlesome.  I am simply saying that we need to be more involved with our neighbors and community.  Ask yourself these questions and if you are not able to answer them, then you have some homework to do:

1.      What are the names of my neighbors?

2.      What are the names of my neighbor’s children?

3.      What are the occupations of my neighbors?

4.      What are the religious or ethical beliefs of my neighbors?

I believe that we are our brother’s keepers.  Steven R Covey, in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, states that we are interdependent beings; meaning that we thrive when we work together harmoniously.  You and I can accomplish 3 times more than I can alone.  With instant messaging, texting, Facebook and Twitter we are losing the personal touch that caused us to flourish in the first place.

Ethan Jonathan David Stacy has not been the first child to lose their life to domestic violence but I want you to ask yourself if his death has to be needless.  I believe the time has never been greater than now to step outside of our digital world and really get to know who is around us and what caliber of people they are.

Below is the obituary for Ethan that I took from www.ObitsUtah.com.

Ethan Jonathan David Stacy

September 22, 2005 ~  May 11, 2010

Hometown: Richlands, VA

ETHAN JONATHAN DAVID STACY, 4 years old of Richlands, Virginia, passed away Tuesday, May 11, 2010 in Layton, Utah. Born at Fort Stewart Army Base in Savannah, Georgia on September 22, 2005, he was the son of Joe Gary Stacy of Richlands, Virginia. Ethan was a fun loving boy who enjoyed life and loved playing with his Transformers.

Ethan is survived by his loving father – Joe Gary Stacy and his fiancé Becky Leigh Elswick of Richlands, Virginia, One sister – Alisa Destiny Stacy, Mt. Carmel, IL, One Brother – Destrian Jonathan David Stacy, Mt. Carmel, IL, Paternal Grandmother – Peggy Jo and her husband David Akers, Grundy, VA, Paternal Grandfather – Gary Steven and his wife Freda Stacy, Hurley, VA, Maternal grandparents – John and Katrina Busby, Apopka, FL

He is also survived by several Aunts, Uncles and Cousins.

Funeral services for ETHAN JONATHAN DAVID STACY will be conducted Wednesday, May 19, 2010 at 1:00 P.M. at the Grundy Funeral Home Chapel with Evangelist Mike Rife officiating with burial to follow in the Clinch Valley Memorial Cemetery, Richlands, Virginia.

Friends may call at the Grundy Funeral Home chapel after 5:00 P.M. Tuesday with evening services at 7:00 P.M.

Active Pallbearers will be Marshall Osborne, Brett Sword, Aaron Keene and Jacob Keene.

A memorial fund has been set up for Ethan Stacy at Tru Point Bank – P. O. Box 1010 – Grundy, Virginia 24614 – Ethan Stacy Memorial Fund.

Online condolences may be sent to the family at www.grundyfuneralhome.com

Grundy Funeral Home of Grundy, Virginia is in charge of all arrangements.

What are your thoughts or feelings about getting out in your neighborhood and community and being involved?

I am a hard working, family loving, freedom fighting capitalist with a passion for entrepreneurialism.
Kyle Clouse
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  • http://MLMDreamSaver.com Vicki Berry

    Oh Kyle, that is so terribly sad and tragic. The loss of a life so young hits especially hard, and with that little smile and innocence it is so hard to imagine how his life could be cut short in such a horrible way.

    But you are right, we are so much stronger together than apart, and I think we owe it to ourselves to increase our sense of community. I don’t see the social media communities as much of an escape from that but even one calling more attention to it, such as you are doing. We’re helping to improve one another’s lives with personal growth in every area from communication to health and wellness, and valuable support in the business sense. But it cannot replace the real life relationships with our families, friends and neighbors, and should only serve to enrich those.

    Thank you for reminding us of this.
    Vicki

  • http://profitpathonline.com Steven Suchar

    Hi Kyle!

    I just wanted to drop by to say ‘hi’ & to also support your Ethan blog post…KUDO’s @ you.

    Thanks for sharing my content as well.

    Have a pleasant day…your tribal friend Steven Suchar :)

  • http://www.tara-west.com Tara West

    That is so sad Kyle… thank you for adding your thought provoking questions and comments to bring more awareness of what we can do in our own communities.

    Blessings to you.

    ~ Tara West
    Certified Coach

  • http://www.lauriemorin.com Laurie

    Hi Kyle,

    What a poignant reminder of what is important in life. Sometimes we get so focused on our own goals and dreams that we forget it is not all about us. In fact, quantum physics tells that everything is energy, and at some level we are all interconnected. Thanks for sharing and reminding us to care.

    I’m glad to be a part of your Tribe.

    Laurie

  • Jessica

    Thank you for reminding of this Kyle. This was a terrible loss and we should not let it be for naught.

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